So, today I decided to go back to sleep for a minute after getting my oldest son sent off to school, just a minute. I was so tired. Now, I don’t normally do this. I usually get up and get all of my work done from my Etsy shop before my baby wakes up, but today I went back to sleep. All of the sudden it is 9:23am and I hear my phone buzzing from somewhere under my pillow. I look at it to realize it is a Facebook notification reminding me that I had an “Event” today…that started at 9:30am; our church’s moms meeting. We have a meeting with a guest speaker geared specifically towards moms every other Monday. Ahhhh! How could I forget about this? I just told my husband about it the night before at dinner and was so excited. It is one of my favorite things to do and I completely forgot about it. I hurry and feed the baby, get ready, and head out the door. I was not missing this meeting.
I arrived to the meeting just in time to hear our wonderful speaker, Candice, start and it didn’t take too long to realize that I was meant to hear this message. The Lord wanted me to hear this message. One of the things that she spoke about was being intentional with our time and our children. (Now of course I forgot to bring my notebook and pen, so I didn’t get to write down scriptures and quotes like I usually do. If you were there and you are reading this and I completely screw it up, I apologize. This is what I took out of it.)
I am the worst about being intentional with my time. I get sidetracked by every.little.thing. My mind is always going five miles a minute. I start doing one thing and am soon reminded that I should be doing something else. Before I know it, it is time to pick up my oldest son from school and I am still in my pajamas, haven’t eaten, and have ten different projects going on at home with none of them complete. My husband finds it humorous (thankfully) and usually comments on how it takes me three times as long as him to do dishes or laundry, because I get distracted and start doing other things. I like to respond by telling him that that is a prime example of why he should do those things. Tee hee! I have been thinking about starting to use a planner for some time, because I love lists and getting things achieved and marked off. I think that maybe if I start writing down ahead of time a few tasks that I need to get done, then I am more likely to complete them. Then there are days when I think about the planner and wonder if I will just end up losing the dang thing and forgetting to write things in it. I am going to try it! I will do an update in a couple of months to let everyone know how it ends up working for me. I definitely need to work on being a better house-keeper, and I know my oldest son would appreciate that, too. He loves to decorate for holidays and I don’t want to decorate a messy house. I know my that it would make myself and my husband happy, too, to have a clean house, so I guess this being intentional with my time thing would be a win-win in many ways. One of the books that was recommended today that I will be reading and updating you all on is Sidetracked Home Executives. Check it out and read it along with me!
I have definitely been more intentional with my time with my children since the baby was born four months ago. My husband and I want to make sure that our oldest son doesn’t feel left out or any less important than he is to us. We actually just talked last night about doing reading time with him one on one a few nights a week. One of us will take the baby on a walk or play in another room and the other parent will take our oldest son and read to him for 20-30 minutes out of our chosen stories a few nights a week until the book is over and then it is the other parent’s turn. We thought this would be a fun way to spend time with him, because he loves books. I will update and give more info in another post soon. This church meeting this morning helped me see even more ways that I can focus on my children. I definitely need to get my work done ahead of time, so that I am not on a time crunch during family time to finish it. I need to put my phone down more. I need to talk to my oldest son more in the car and ask him what his prayer requests are for me to say for him. He doesn’t watch TV too often, but I need to watch his shows with him when he asks me to even though they seem to drive me insane. I need to focus on my baby when he is awake more, even when he is content and I could be getting other things done. Yes, I play with him, but I feel like I could still focus on him more than I do. I need to listen when my son is speaking to me even if I am trying to do something. The other book that was recommended today that I will be reading and updating you all on is called Cleaning House: A Mom’s Twelve-Month Experiment to Rid Her Home of Youth Entitlement. I am really excited to start this one and think it will help everyone in my household keep the sanity. See what I did there? Check it out and follow along for the update after I read it!
The main thing that I learned is that I need to focus. Focus in on my kids and my family. Give them what they are silently begging me for. I learned that it is okay to tell people “no” and not attend something if I feel that family time with just us is more important. Don’t get so bogged down with activities and events that you miss out on actually knowing what is going on with your child. One thing that definitely hit me today was when the speaker asked, “How many summers do you have left with your children?” You don’t know how long you will have your children. You don’t know. Make today matter and make sure that they are your focus. God gave YOU these precious gifts. Make sure that you are intentional with the time that you have with them. I’m not saying keep them from going away to college or going to hang out with their friends when they want to, because then they’ll just resent you (I’ve seen this happen many times), but when they are with you, make sure that they know that they are important to you. Make memories with them. Don’t let them remember you always being too busy to spend time with them.
You are not to worry about what your children grow up to be. You are to make sure that they are good, godly people when they get there.